I went to see Andrew in 2008 because I had an emotional blockage. This had actually always been there, since I was very little. I was anxious in my relationships with other people, afraid of them. I had for most of my life suffered from low self esteem. Although I had visited different psychotherapists before, I felt the blockage hadn´t been resolved and I decided to visit Andrew. What we discovered in our sessions opened my eyes and made me regain my self esteem.
At the age of 8 I suffered the sudden abandonment of my best friend at school (she went to another school). As we found out following rewind techniques in a state of deep relaxation, my unconscious mind learnt from this experience that friendship is no good and this learning led me to mistrust people throughout my whole life. I was unable to engage in close relationships with other people and I always feared abandonment and rejection. My closest friend was, paradoxically, my mother, who is the person who has helped me most and is dearest to me.
Apart from this abandonment, I also lived a toxic home environment. As a growing girl, my emotions were totally neglected. My monetary and academic needs were covered, but my emotional needs remained unmet for years on end. My parents had an emotionally abusive relationship between them which reflected in their relationship with me and my sister. My dad is emotionally clumsy himself and didn´t know how to teach us to manage our own emotions. For years I was angry at him and regarded him as a bad person. Andrew helped me look at these feelings from a more objective perspective and used the tapping technique to unblock the toxic emotions. Now I don´t feel like that about my father. I have realised that he behaved the best way he knew and I know that he loves me very much.
I believe in emotional education in childhood. Emotional and social intelligence are the basics of human relationships, and are as (or more) important as IQ (intelligence quotient). They are also as important as having economic resources to give children a good academic education. From my experience, I know that meeting a child´s monetary needs is not enough for him to grow up happy and secure. It is an emotionally intelligent household what counts for in the shaping of the child´s future happiness and ability to cope with stress in life.